Updated: May 22, 2019
"In an obscure night Fevered with love's anxiety (O hapless, happy plight!) I went, none seeing me Forth from my house, where all things quiet be."
– St. John of the Cross.
The Dark Night of the Soul is a period of spiritual transformation and growth which comes as a result of deep pain within ourselves. It is common to experience this when our twin flames run away from us to be with a karmic partner or simply ignore our love. The pain caused by the separation is so intense that you will most likely lose hope of living. In this stage it is common to just want to give up with this journey and go back to Source, because it is out of our comprehension why would God give us a taste of such pure unconditional love, and then take it away from us. We question: "what is the point of living if I can't have this love?"
This will be the hardest part of your journey, because feeling that you've lost the other half of yourself forever will tear your soul apart. You will cry and beg for mercy because you will feel incomplete. More so, you will feel as if you will never have the chance to feel whole again. But I'm here to tell you that you will get through it. You might not be able to see it right now, but this intense pain within, will soon become a blessing in your life.
Because the pain of a Dark Night is so intolerable, you will try to escape from yourself. Your own thoughts will become a prison, so your heart and soul will do everything they can to bring you back to life. Eventually, the only escape you'll find is to be present, so you can free yourself from your mind. You will only get away from the pain by breathing, watching the wind caressing the trees, surrendering your will to the will of God. While your primary intention was to escape from yourself, a Dark Night will bring your attention and awareness back into yourself. You will stare at yourself in the mirror and see your pain, addictions, fears, attachments, conditioning, labels, limitations, and you will stop identifying with them. You will wake up from the illusion, by realizing that you are much more than your pain, much more than your suffering, and that the light within you is the purest light of existence.
As a result of this, you will tame your ego, and understand that life keeps going. You will look around with compassion discovering that you are not the only one who is suffering. This will expand your vision, and you will understand that the separation was the best thing for your twin and yourself because you both still had things to heal within. Because you both deserved better, and at that time none of you was ready to give and receive unconditional love. Eventually, this will wake you up to the mission of assisting as many people as you can and be of service to others and to God. You will see the magnificent Divine Plan behind the egoic constructs of the mind.
The most important lesson from this period of your life, is that separation was an illusion because your twin was within yourself all the time. You were never separate, but the Dark Night of The Soul was needed to let go all the labels and limitations you were identifying yourself with. This Dark Night then becomes light, because you will find who you truly are and the veils of illusion will vanish. At that moment, you will be free.
As a result, you will find self love and understand that you don't need anybody to complete you. That you can be happy with and within yourself. That you've always been whole inside, and that your beloved is right there inside your heart. He/She never left you, they were just helping you find your freedom. You will understand that you are the master of your reality and you won't let external situations bring you down.
Then you will be so empowered and emanating so much love and light, that you will magnetize your beloved twin flame back to you. Now both of you will be ready to give and receive true unconditional love, and you will have the most beautiful and harmonious union you could ever imagine. But to get there, the pain was necessary to leave behind everything that was no longer serving you to break away from the illusion. It was necessary to leave behind the masks of the ego and remember your true self.