Twin Flames - Expanding Your True Self.

Updated: Jun 6, 2020

"If you want to shrink something,

you must first allow it to expand.

If you want to get rid of something,

you must first allow it to flourish.

If you want to take something,

you must first allow it to be given.

This is called the subtle perception

of the way things are."

– Tao Te Ching



The greatest gift for the human soul during the ascension process is perhaps the expansion of its true self. But what does it mean to be our true self? It is hard to answer this question from the perspective of the mind, which tells us that we are a separate individual having a finite experience. The ego views itself as an isolated personality that has no direct correlation to the other aspects of creation. This perspective comes from separation consciousness, which is the inability to understand the relation between all things that exist in this universe. But the way life operates is quite different. Life cannot happen without the cooperation of several organisms working towards a common goal. The cells are a great example of this, since they represent the basic unit of life. When they get together to form higher biological structures, they give birth to more complex organisms. In the same way, your true self has the capacity to synthesize the awareness of life through your own experience and expand into more evolved forms of consciousness. Just as Alan Watts told us, "When you realize that in a world where there are no eyes, the sun would not be light, and that in a world where there were no soft skins, rocks would not be hard, nor in a world where there were no muscles would they be heavy. Existence is relationship and you are smack in the middle of it!"


To say that existence is relationship means that we need of each other to thrive in life. But in order for the flow of abundance to nurture all beings, there must be an energetic balance between what is given and what is received. Great imbalances have prevailed on the Earth because some beings take more than what they give. This behavior comes from the fear of not having enough; the fear of not being able to survive on our own. This is also the result of not relaying on others to support our existence. It is the lack of trust in ourselves and others what causes the separation of consciousness. As a result of this cycle based on fear, the collective consciousness has immersed itself in a way of living shaped on scarcity and service to self. And so, the people who are considered successful in our society, are admired for pursuing personal interests and material rewards. But in the end, this way of living leads to self annihilation, because it goes against the natural laws of the universe. We cannot retain life, security or abundance, because they will collapse in the same way as a flower that is cut down. Life is only nurtured when it is shared and given away.


To share life is to become a vehicle of healing and expansion for all beings. It is to embrace the knowing that everything we do for others will have a positive effect on the well-being of the cosmos. When we are in service to others, we also help our own selves. When we give to others, we give to ourselves. This concept can be easily grasped when we understand that the only way we can thrive as a species is if we are able to preserve our environment. If we destroy our own environment, we won't have any possibility of survival. When we take more for ourselves than we need, we create imbalances that affect the environment and other living organisms. To correct these imbalances we must honor the importance of each individual in the evolution of consciousness and identify how they impact our own reality. It is only when we are able to perceive the beauty, uniqueness and contribution of all living organisms, that we can nurture them in return. Every single being is important in the development of life, and all evolution links are crucial in the spiral of consciousness. Life can only expand when there is perfect balance between giving and receiving.


To be genuinely caring about the expansion of all living organisms leads to the most powerful energy of the universe: love. Love is a force that is able to bring people together, unify polarities, renew life, expand consciousness, and recreate all existence. However, love is restricted when we are afraid of not having enough